Friday, 2 December 2016


Have you ever wondered if you are on the right track with the kind of relationship you are in now? Just read on to discover what a real relationship is and how to identify and end fake relationships.

Relationship is a connection between two or more individuals, groups, objects, concepts, even countries. It is also a behavioral attitude of two or more people or organizations towards each other. 

It could also be a connection by blood or marriage; A sexual or emotional association between individuals. Relationships might also require time and effort as well as willingness to study and understand the other parties involved to make it work. Life is all about relationships.

Real Relationship: This is relationship between compatible individuals who within a certain course of time worked towards and realized they can complement each other with their lifestyles, aspirations and Personalities.
Fake Relationship:
Is putting up an act of being in a relationship for certain reasons, this could happen between strangers who may due to certain purposes choose to portray an act of being in a relationship. It could also occur out of deceit whereby one of the parties involved is ignorant and feels to be in a real serious relationship and might later feel betrayed upon finding out the truth.

How to Identify a Fake Relationship
o   When the relationship is all about sex or just sexual

o   Bad changes in individual characters and attitude

o   Bad or no communication

o   Choice of self-comfort instead of love

o   Public show off or display of love

o   Ignorance or lack of knowledge of the partner you are involved with.

o   Lack of tolerance to each others Career or Profession.

If the above are your experience in your relationship then;

  Ending a Fake Relationship

o Have time to ponder and plan carefully your next actions

o Don’t approach the situation aggressively.

o Believe that someday there are real people who are ready for real relationships.

o Have a calm discussion with your relationship partner and call off the relationship.

o Take care of yourself don’t take let the break up weigh you down.

o Let your past experience only make you wiser but not a bad person.

I hope this was helpful; i will also love to read more ideas from you on how best to handle fake relationships.


Wednesday, 30 November 2016


Are you a single lady? Are you so frustrated that another year is going and no 
proposal yet? Do you feel time is no more on your side? Are you being pressured from parents, siblings and probably friends? Are all your childhood friends married? Do you attend weddings often hoping to be a bride soon? Well if your answer to any of the above question is yes, then read further:

marriage: God’s original purpose for every man and woman on earth was to be married (Genesis 2:18- 24) but God did not mean it will happen in the same day, time, year, season. For we were not born equal including identical, to every one there was an assigned purpose and destiny, to accomplish those destinies there was a specific time allocated to us individuals.

Anger is not the Solution to Frustration, God is.
Your Time Vs. God’s Time: You might have set targets, goals and limited time to accomplish those Set targets but no matter what we do as humans if its not God's timing it would not work. 
God also has an ordained time to bring all he wants for you to reality but mostly he needs a little bit of patience from you. 
Many times we become so impatient and try to do things on our own like forcing a man to propose to you, by becoming pregnant, giving financial support, influence of our family and background, but at the end we still end up being hurt and many become single mothers, divorcees which was never God’s plans for us.

Instead of trying to do things on your own and hurting yourself, let us try and be patient with God believing his word in (Isaiah 34:16), God can never lie it may only delay. Being single is no curse; see it as an opportunity to do all you have ever loved to do because marriage can be demanding.
Believe it you have times in your life to fulfill all that you were assigned to be on earth including marriage but you should not sit arm and legs crossed waiting for you prince charming, Make yourself useful by realizing and pursuing your ordained destiny purposes, Strive to be a better person, one whom someday your husband will be proud of.

Also while being single prepare yourself to be a married woman by learning all it takes to have a home and be a good wife, so eventually when it's your time and your own Prince charming comes your way, you will not miss him or even when married you will not have problems that will lead to divorce or an unhealthy Marriage.

As you wait patiently I know God will connect you to your husband, he did it for me he will do for you too, Amen!