How To Maintain A Relationship Without Sex

In our world today people say that it’s so rare to find virgin’s (Ladies especially), and yet other people argue as to if there could be any loving and Intimate relationship without sex.

I know by mentioning that word “intimacy” your brows are raised, yes! Intimacy can be achieved in your relationship without sex just patiently read-on,

To start with what does relationship, love and sex really mean;

RELATIONSHIP:

 Relationship is the connection between two or more people; it’s actually a state of being connected.

LOVE:

Love is a great interest and pleasure in someone or something, it is also a strong feeling of affection.

SEX:

Sex means a classification of Humans or other living things into either of the two main categories (Male and Female) on the basis of their reproductive functions (gender) and SEX also means an activity (sexual activity) involving sexual intercourse, lovemaking, sex act, sexual relations etc.

The kind of sex being referred to here is the sexual intercourse.

Now when you love someone is it possible not to have sex with the person? YES! I say yes.

I know a relationship is definitely not all about sex, but also two people having sex in a “loving relationship” is just a mutual expression of their feeling and to others sex is the essential of their relationship but friend God doesn’t permit sex before marriage.

There are definitely some teens and few adult spinsters who are saving sex for marriage and who are in happy, healthy relationships so you’re definitely not alone. If you are still confused and in doubt as to the possibility of none sexual relationship i tell you it is possible, just see how to below;

6 STEPS ON HOW TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX:

BOTH PARTIES INVOLVED SHOULD HAVE THE FEAR OF GOD: 

God is love and if a relationship is based on true love then it should be solely based on God. We fear and respect our earthly parents to the extent we can’t have sex in their presence yet because of his abounding mercy we don’t fear the one who is our Father and creator  who sees in the secret what men can’t see. If we could fear God then we would obey him, your body is his sanctuary (temple) keep it holy. He insisted sex is strictly for HUSBAND and WIFE. 

GET BUSY: 

As the saying goes “an idle mind is the devil workshop” try to get yourself busy putting off anything sexual from your mind, although the feeling might occur that’s the devils specialty area but avoid & resist it. Avoid watching porn movies or any romantic book/ novels, avoid alcohol yes alcohol, read more of holy books, inspirational and motivational books, play TV games, get busy with your talents and passions, do anything that can make you happy forget about sex.

AVOID VISITING THEIR HOUSES ALONE: 

This might seem awkward let’s face it, Most especially for ladies, 95% of intimacy usually take place when a lady visit’s her boyfriend (guy) or spend the night/ weekend there. Even if you are to go, then go with a matured and trusted relative or sibling, I won’t advice friends cause most friends might encourage you against your wish to have sex and don’t always visit regularly.

COMMUNICATION:

Communication is an essential pillar of a sweet relationship; you should both be open to each other and joke more often but avoid sexual topics that might arouse you. Appreciation and compliments is only needful even when you don’t see often.

 DON’T GO TO SECLUDED PLACE WITH AN OPPOSITE SEX: 

Going to a secluded/ quiet/ undisturbed/ lonely/private places with your yet to be married spouse or any other opposite sex could give room to kissing, touching and caressing which may lead to sex. It is said that when two opposite sex are alone in a lonely place there is a third person (satan) which will definitely try to influence them to commit fornication, if you want to see each other even if it’s daily try to meet in open place like restaurants, Movie cinemas or any open place where you can see people can see and people can also see you.

QUICK MARRIAGE: 

Getting married on time will not only save you from God’s wrath brought by involvement in pre-marital sex, it will also give you the opportunity to have full time and pleasure with your spouse.

Be free to share your thoughts if there's anyone i left out kindly comment below.

Thank you for the long read and i hope we can apply this in our relationships and teach our younger generations too that SEX IS NOT LOVE.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A "FAKE" AND A "REAL RELATIONSHIP

Have you ever wondered if you are on the right track with the kind of relationship you are in now? Just read on to discover what a real relationship is and how to identify and end fake relationships.
                           

Relationship:

Relationship is a connection between two or more individuals, groups, objects, concepts, even countries. It is also a behavioral attitude of two or more people or organizations towards each other. 

It could also be a connection by blood or marriage; A sexual or emotional association between individuals. Relationships might also require time and effort as well as willingness to study and understand the other parties involved to make it work. Life is all about relationships.

Real Relationship: This is relationship between compatible individuals who within a certain course of time worked towards and realized they can complement each other with their lifestyles, aspirations and Personalities.

 

Fake Relationship:

Is putting up an act of being in a relationship for certain reasons, this could happen between strangers who may due to certain purposes choose to portray an act of being in a relationship. It could also occur out of deceit whereby one of the parties involved is ignorant and feels to be in a real serious relationship and might later feel betrayed upon finding out the truth.

How to Identify a Fake Relationship

o   When the relationship is all about sex or just sexual

o   Bad changes in individual characters and attitude

o   Bad or no communication

o   Choice of self-comfort instead of love

o   Public show off or display of love

o   Ignorance or lack of knowledge of the partner you are involved with.

o   Lack of tolerance to each others Career or Profession.

If the above are your experience in your relationship then;

  Ending a Fake Relationship

o Have time to ponder and plan carefully your next actions

o Don’t approach the situation aggressively.

o Believe that someday there are real people who are ready for real relationships.

o Have a calm discussion with your relationship partner and call off the relationship.

o Take care of yourself don’t take let the break up weigh you down.

o Let your past experience only make you wiser but not a bad person.

I hope this was helpful; i will also love to read more ideas from you on how best to handle fake relationships.

   

FRUSTRATED AS A SINGLE LADY; DESPERATE FOR A HUSBAND WHAT CAN I DO?

Are you a single lady? Are you so frustrated that another year is going and no 
proposal yet? Do you feel time is no more on your side? Are you being pressured from parents, siblings and probably friends? Are all your childhood friends married? Do you attend weddings often hoping to be a bride soon? Well if your answer to any of the above question is yes, then read further:

marriage: God’s original purpose for every man and woman on earth was to be married (Genesis 2:18- 24) but God did not mean it will happen in the same day, time, year, season. For we were not born equal including identical, to every one there was an assigned purpose and destiny, to accomplish those destinies there was a specific time allocated to us individuals.

Anger is not the Solution to Frustration, God is.

Your Time Vs. God’s Time: You might have set targets, goals and limited time to accomplish those Set targets but no matter what we do as humans if its not God's timing it would not work. 
God also has an ordained time to bring all he wants for you to reality but mostly he needs a little bit of patience from you. 
Many times we become so impatient and try to do things on our own like forcing a man to propose to you, by becoming pregnant, giving financial support, influence of our family and background, but at the end we still end up being hurt and many become single mothers, divorcees which was never God’s plans for us.

Instead of trying to do things on your own and hurting yourself, let us try and be patient with God believing his word in (Isaiah 34:16), God can never lie it may only delay. Being single is no curse; see it as an opportunity to do all you have ever loved to do because marriage can be demanding.

Believe it you have times in your life to fulfill all that you were assigned to be on earth including marriage but you should not sit arm and legs crossed waiting for you prince charming, Make yourself useful by realizing and pursuing your ordained destiny purposes, Strive to be a better person, one whom someday your husband will be proud of.

Also while being single prepare yourself to be a married woman by learning all it takes to have a home and be a good wife, so eventually when it's your time and your own Prince charming comes your way, you will not miss him or even when married you will not have problems that will lead to divorce or an unhealthy Marriage.

As you wait patiently I know God will connect you to your husband, he did it for me he will do for you too, Amen!