In our world today people
say that it’s so rare to find virgin’s (Ladies especially), and yet other
people argue as to if there could be any loving and Intimate relationship
without sex.
I know by mentioning that
word “intimacy” your brows are raised, yes! Intimacy can be achieved in your
relationship without sex just patiently read-on,
To start with what does relationship, love and sex really mean;
RELATIONSHIP:
Relationship is the connection between two
or more people; it’s actually a state of being connected.
LOVE:
Love is a great interest and pleasure in someone
or something, it is also a strong feeling of affection.
SEX:
Sex means a classification of Humans or other
living things into either of the two main categories (Male and Female) on the
basis of their reproductive functions (gender) and SEX also
means an activity (sexual activity) involving sexual intercourse, lovemaking,
sex act, sexual relations etc.
The kind of sex being referred to here is the
sexual intercourse.
Now when you love someone is it possible not to
have sex with the person? YES! I say yes.
I know a relationship is definitely not all
about sex, but also two people having sex in a “loving relationship” is just a
mutual expression of their feeling and to others sex is the essential of their
relationship but friend God doesn’t permit sex before marriage.
There are definitely some teens and few adult spinsters who are saving sex for marriage and who are in
happy, healthy relationships so you’re definitely not alone. If you are still
confused and in doubt as to the possibility of none sexual relationship i tell you it is possible, just see how to below;
6 STEPS ON HOW TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX:
God is love and if a
relationship is based on true love then it should be solely based on God. We
fear and respect our earthly parents to the extent we can’t have sex in their
presence yet because of his abounding mercy we don’t fear the one who is our
Father and creator who sees in the secret what men can’t see. If we could
fear God then we would obey him, your body is his sanctuary (temple) keep it
holy. He insisted sex is strictly for HUSBAND and WIFE.
GET BUSY:
AVOID VISITING THEIR HOUSES ALONE:
COMMUNICATION:
DON’T GO TO SECLUDED PLACE WITH AN OPPOSITE SEX:
QUICK MARRIAGE:
GET BUSY:
As the saying goes “an
idle mind is the devil workshop” try to get yourself busy putting off anything
sexual from your mind, although the feeling might occur that’s the devils
specialty area but avoid & resist it. Avoid watching porn movies or any
romantic book/ novels, avoid alcohol yes alcohol, read more of holy books,
inspirational and motivational books, play TV games, get busy with your talents
and passions, do anything that can make you happy forget about sex.
AVOID VISITING THEIR HOUSES ALONE:
This might seem awkward let’s face it,
Most especially for ladies, 95% of intimacy usually take place when a lady
visit’s her boyfriend (guy) or spend the night/ weekend there. Even if you are
to go, then go with a matured and trusted relative or sibling, I won’t advice
friends cause most friends might encourage you against your wish to have sex
and don’t always visit regularly.
COMMUNICATION:
Communication is an
essential pillar of a sweet relationship; you should both be open to each other
and joke more often but avoid sexual topics that might arouse you. Appreciation
and compliments is only needful even when you don’t see often.
DON’T GO TO SECLUDED PLACE WITH AN OPPOSITE SEX:
Going to a secluded/ quiet/ undisturbed/ lonely/private
places with your yet to be married spouse or any other opposite sex could give
room to kissing, touching and caressing which may lead to sex. It is said that
when two opposite sex are alone in a lonely place there is a third person
(satan) which will definitely try to influence them to commit fornication, if
you want to see each other even if it’s daily try to meet in open place like
restaurants, Movie cinemas or any open place where you can see people can see
and people can also see you.
QUICK MARRIAGE:
Getting married on time
will not only save you from God’s wrath brought by involvement in pre-marital
sex, it will also give you the opportunity to have full time and pleasure with
your spouse.
Be free to share your thoughts if there's anyone i left out kindly comment below.
Thank you for the long read and i hope we can apply this in our relationships and teach our younger generations too that SEX IS NOT LOVE.
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